The coronavirus outbreak is leading to big changes in the way we live our everyday lives. Our relationships are hugely important to us just at a time when they are being placed under the most intense pressure.
Relationships are not built on the expectation that you’ll be spending all day, every day with that person. If you’re both working from home, with nowhere to go in the evenings, there’s a chance you may experience some friction. Perhaps it’s happening already?
This is perfectly normal, particularly given the increased stress we’re all under right now. But, as we could be in this predicament for a while yet, it’s worth taking some steps to ensure we get through this period with our relationships intact. We may even come out the other side stronger!
‘‘Any transition serious enough to alter your definition of self, will require not just small adjustments in your way of living and thinking, but a full-on metamorphosis’’ Martha Beck
Give these strategies a go:
1. WRITE DOWN ALL THE POSITIVE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN
YOU AND YOUR PARTNER
Be interested in your partner and the people around you and appreciate their special qualities. Write a list of the positive differences between you, what each of you is good at and what you like doing. It will help you to understand each other better. Remember two people with different strengths make a better team!
2. STOP THE CRITICISM
Lots of relationships are spoiled by repetitive negative behaviour such as nagging or criticism. A pattern begins to form so that as soon as one person does or says something, the other responds negatively.
Try saying something out of context. When niggles arise between you or one is trying to control the other, say something silly or funny. Your partner will be so taken aback it will throw them – and it may even make them laugh. But most importantly, it will change the habits of communication between you.
3. THE CUDDLE TIME
Make time for just having a cuddle with no expectation of anything further, and enjoy the closeness. Partners are often distracted by what’s going on around them – by technology, sport, children, work, family or friends.
4. ALLOW YOURS AND OTHERS DREAMS
Encourage your partner to fulfil their dreams and ask them to allow you to achieve yours, too. When you both feel free, you will both be happy!
5. ENJOY DISCUSSIONS!
Many irritations in relationships are when one person thinks the other should be doing or seeing things their way. You can easily stand up for yourself by working on the way you approach conversations. For example, say, “We are both right and we are both wrong; we see things differently because we are different people.”
6. EASY LISTENING
Love focusing on your partners strengths, and really listen to what they have to say.
7. TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR OWN HAPPINESS
Vow to not having too-high expectations of others and how they should behave towards you. If there’s something you want or need, buy it for yourself instead of expecting someone else to read your mind. This way you will be happ
Hypnosis and NLP can be used to change thinking patterns, behaviours and outcomes.
Also, to help create a great relationship with your partner:
• Deal with negative emotions
• Have much improved communications with the people around you
• Recapture those feelings of love and romance
• Build strong relationships towards a brighter futur
You too can shift the dynamics of your relationship!